Unicorn Games

Naïve and Stupid

Let me introduce myself,  I’m a 55-year-old woman whose been divorced for 10 years.  I have a 22-year-old daughter. She’s a good human being and I’m proud to be her mom.  I work as a corporate middle manager. 

I had a long-time boyfriend for a little over 7 years.  My boyfriend lived about 3 hours away and I saw him once or twice a month over the weekend.  This fit my schedule because my daughter was my priority until she graduated high school in 2019.  We got along well, so once she graduated, I was ready for a different relationship.  Well here comes Covid  8 months later and my already neglected relationship was struggling.  We tried but it just wasn’t working. That relationship ended in 2021.  So, after some soul searching and time, I decided it was time to get back out there!  Boy was I wrong.

I took stock of the situation;  I was 52 at the time, worked from home not to mention Covid was still lurking.  Meeting men was not going to happen naturally.  Last time I was truly single and dated was in 1996. (I met my boyfriend at work.)  That’s a long time!!

Sidebar:  I’ve worked out all this time and I still looked pretty good,  I’m a curvy size 8 and relatively intelligent.  So, I’m thinking how hard can this be.  This  was one of the dumbest thoughts I’ve ever had. I should have known better after 52 years of being alive that nothing is as easy as you think.  Looking back on it I was naïve and a little stupid, but hindsight is 20/20.         

I had a coworker who online dated and gave me advice on which apps to use.  I chose one to get my feet wet.  Finished my profile which was difficult,  let me state I’m attractive but not photogenic, finding pictures was difficult. I don’t use any filters on my pictures because I don’t have the apps for those. I’m old school, you either like the way I look, or you don’t.  But whatever, I started swiping and matched up with a nice guy.  We talked and hit it off, so we planned to meet in a park in mid-town Houston the next day.

Profile pictures

• When picking pictures for your profile pick about five and have two that are full body and no filters.  Men don’t like filters and the next date hears all about it.
• Pick current pictures, if the idea is to get a man why fool him in the beginning.

I live in a suburb outside of Houston, he lives in suburb outside of  Dallas which is about 4 hours away.  He was in town for a couple of weeks for work.  I didn’t know you have to look at the travel mode in the app to see if they are from your area. 

I had a lot of anxiety getting ready for the date, but luckily it was casual, and I can talk to anyone.  We meet and he looks just like his picture, attractive and he says I look just like my pictures.  We walked around and talked; he was very nice.  He, however, was into extreme sports and wanted a companion to do that with.  As I stated I work out regularly but I’m not riding my bike 500 miles or swimming some canal in the cold, plus I really wasn’t interested in another long-distance relationship.

For my first date in 25 years, it wasn’t bad.

I call this blog Unicorn Game Stories because I’m looking for a unicorn.  A God-fearing  middle-aged man, whose still in good shape, wants one woman and that I’m attracted to.   I have a complete list of attributes I’m looking for in a unicorn and will share it later. 

In this blog I look back on my dates and give perils of wisdom or just laugh at how ridiculous they were.  All names have been changed to protect the innocent and the guilty.

So let the games begin!!

Wesleigh Bell